Good Communication Begins Before You Open Your Mouth

By Susie A. Taylor | Story Strategist | Susie Taylor Marketing | Join the World Referral Network for FREE!

Sometimes we explain something carefully, notice the other person still looks uncertain, and respond by adding more words.

Then more details.

Then perhaps the same point again, only louder.

Yet somehow, the conversation becomes less clear.

The problem may not be what we prepared to say. It may be that we prepared our words without preparing for the person receiving them.

Good communication begins long before the first sentence. It begins with understanding what the conversation is actually for.

Are you trying to inform, solve a problem, establish a boundary, repair a misunderstanding, ask for help, or simply understand another point of view?

That distinction matters because our stated purpose and hidden purpose are sometimes different. We say we want a discussion when we really want agreement. We offer advice when someone needs empathy. We provide facts when reassurance would be more useful.

Before speaking, consider the person on the other side.

What do they already know? What might they misunderstand? What matters most from their perspective? How much detail do they need? What emotional context are they bringing into the room?

Then check your own.

Are you calm enough to listen? Are you trying to connect or win? Have you already decided what the other person thinks?

Curiosity can prevent many conversations from becoming arguments built on assumptions.

Instead of, “You clearly don’t care about this,” try, “Can you help me understand what happened?”

Instead of, “You weren’t listening,” try, “What did you understand me to mean?”

Clear communication also tends to be simpler than we imagine.

Try this:

Here is what happened.
Here is why it matters.
Here is what I need or recommend.
What is your perspective?

Then listen.

Tone, timing, attention, and body language matter too. Carefully chosen words can still fail when we interrupt, rush, stare at a screen, or begin a difficult conversation when everyone is exhausted.

Preparation is not about scripting every sentence.

It is about preparing for connection.

Before deciding what you want to say, consider whether you are willing to understand the other person as carefully as you hope to be understood.

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